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FingerprintHeartCanvasSmThere’s just nothing like the love we have for our kids but are you sometimes at a loss for creative ways to express that so that they know, without a doubt, that they are loved to the moon and back? I happened upon today’s post at Popsugar.com and loved this reminder to be intentional in showing and telling kids just that. Here are just a few of the ideas you’ll find in the post.
1. I’m grateful for you.
6. You don’t have to be perfect to be great.
11. I believe in you.
12. This family wouldn’t be the same without you.
33. What you did was awesome.
55. You can try again tomorrow.
Don’t these take you to a happy, secure place just by reading them?! Read more at the link below and help your kids face the difficult things life throws at them.
( See 66 Positive Things You Should Be Saying to Your Child for the complete post)

Simple and easy birthday party idea

Does your child love to read?  Here’s a simple and easy 3-step idea for a child’s birthday party or themed gathering.  You love easy, right?  12378457-happy-children-cartoon-sitting-on-the-floor-while-reading-books

STEP 1 – Contact Me to Set Your Party Date

I’ll set up your Facebook Event page and plan occasional posts and pics to get everyone excited about your special day.  You can start inviting people right away (moms and kids) or I can do that for you.  I’m happy to help!

STEP 2 – Use Birthday Party Invitations as Reminder Cards

Kids love to get mail so we can make them feel really special and remind their moms about the party at the same time.  Email me a quick guest list with addresses and I’ll take care of this for you too.

STEP 3 – Prepare as You Normally Would for the Birthday Party (but it’s even easier then that!)

Order a cake and mix up some punch or lemonade.  That’s it!images

What makes this so simple?

1.  You don’t need to buy party favors for the guests.  All the kids will be getting new books so you don’t have to stress about shopping for them and you don’t have the stress on your wallet either.

2.  The guests don’t have to shop for a present for your child so no stress for them either.

3.  Your child gets to pick out all the free books earned so they get exactly what they want.  No more gifts to return, no more acting like they like it when they don’t, no more getting gifts that they already have.

4.  You can easily arrange for party games or a sleepover after the shopping time is done, or send them all home if sleepovers aren’t your thing.  In any case, you get a chance to get to know your child’s friends and their parents a little better.  And in today’s fast-paced world, that’s always a good thing.

Set your date today.  If you are not in my area but still want to do this, contact me and I’ll find an Usborne Books & More rep in your area.

 

 

I recently happened upon a fascinating yet easy idea by way of a simple blog post.  The Warm Fuzzy Jar described therein is a superb tool that can be easily implemented.  If you don’t want to buy pom poms, use painted rocks for heavens sake.  Just do it, like Nike says.  Take the time to at least skim the post from Hands Free Mama (see link below) and consider the lasting impression you have on your own kids and the kids you care for.  Here’s a short quote to give you a taste.DSC_0040-e1432856425292

“It became clear to me that constant corrections were not helping my children become more successful, more productive, more effective, or more fulfilled.  Being critical was hindering my children’s gifts and causing them to be unsure of their abilities. Criticism was diminishing their unique lights that made them who they are.”

Now, consider changing your kids’ lives by changing yourself first.  Here’s the link for the article in its entirety  http://www.handsfreemama.com/2013/05/29/how-to-fill-up-a-child/

Has your 2-year-old started (or are they still) waking up at night?

My kids are teenagers now so this no longer applies to me though my kids are often up at all hours of the night too.  Thankfully that doesn’t mean I have to be awake with them.  But if you’re in the throws of toddler hood and your child’s nights are still challenging, here’s a tip you may not have tried from Becky at Your Modern Family.  (See original post at http://www.yourmodernfamily.com/waking-at-night-advice/)

My 2 year old is still waking up at night – advice from a Pediatrician 

A few years ago, when our child was still waking up at night, I went into our Doctor’s office with this complaint…  “My 2 year old is still waking up at night .”  Her advice changed our nights!

2, 3, 4 year old waking up at night

I wanted to share this with you, because our son was the BEST sleeper.  He came home from the hospital and slept through the night.   


At one year of age, he continued to sleep all night long.  He did this until he was about two years of age and then it started.  He started waking up at night and it was happening every night.  He was waking up not feeling rested… even, might I say… “Crabby”?


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Once we started watching his patterns more often, we realized that it was around the same time every night.  He was going to bed around 7:00 every night (6:00 if he didn’t nap at all) and waking up in the morning around 7:00 or 8:00.  If he goes to bed at 6:00, he wakes up between 6:50 & 7:30 – he always gets at least 12 hours, sometimes 13, which is about what he needs.

He started waking up at midnight, too.  He would wake up and cry.  We would just go in, cover him up and he would go back to sleep.  Sometimes he wanted a drink or different pajamas (not sure about this one, he just liked to change his pajamas – haha!)  It was impacting his mornings.  He just wasn’t acting like himself because he was waking up and not getting his much-needed rest. After a few weeks of this, I was exhausted (We have three other kids and one was a baby at the time.)  He was exhausted, too.

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I wish I could say that it was a short phase, but it kept going.  A few months later, I was even more exhausted.  When his 3 year well-check came around, this was brought up and we received great advice!

THIS ADVICE CHANGED HIS SLEEP PATTERNS AND HE BEGAN TO SLEEP ALL NIGHT LONG…

She told us that when WE go to bed, go into his room first, hug him, kiss him, lay with them, cover him up…. all things to rouse him just a bit.  Wake him just enough to break him out of his sleep a little.  What this does is that it breaks up his sleep cycle.   He was waking when he was switching from his REM sleep.   I studied child development in college, so this makes complete sense to me, once she said it.

I wish I would have thought of it sooner!  It worked PERFECTLY!  He no longer woke up at night and he sleeps the full night.  I was so excited the first night and I have been happy ever since!  So the key is just to ‘stir him a bit’ before you go to bed.  That was it for us!  I hope that it works for you, too!

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To moms of babies, introducing the Left Shoe Trick

Here’s a timely post from the Two Twenty One blog which will help insure that our precious little ones are kept safe.  What do you think of this idea?
11151013_957121194332384_3549660422488091584_n“We’re implementing the left shoe trick this summer. After buckling Owen into his car seat, I take off my left shoe and put it on the backseat. The idea is that I won’t get very far without my shoe. While I’d like to think I’d never forget my baby in a hot car, all these cases in recent years scare the crap out of me. (No judgmental comments, please. This trick is meant to be helpful.)”

Today I want to share a post from the Momastery blog because all kids need to hear this.  Yesterday Momastery posted a letter sent home with a child from a very caring teacher who absolutely ROCKS!  This shows why teachers are one of our nation’s most valuable resources.  Read below and then read it to your kids.  Not once or twice.  Every single time they hear the word “testing” they need to hear this until it’s ingrained in their hearts and minds.  Isn’t it absolutely fantastic?!  (See original Momastery post)

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What are your kids doing this summer?

As the school year winds down you may be wondering how you’ll keep your kids active and engaged this summer  There are many options but camps and childcare can be so expensive.  One idea is to have your own Summer Brain Camp with a small group of like-minded families.  It isn’t as difficult as you’d think and you’ll probably spend only a fraction of what you’d spend on other activities.  Ask around and you may find more parents than you expected who have the same concerns.  
0008156_300I can help you find the resources you need to pull it off.  For example, you could get together once a week for simple and fun science experiments like the ones in 365 Science Activities or 101 Science Experiments.  0000419_300The activities usually involve common materials you’d find in your own home or at a nearby dollar store. Each family can take a turn directing the science activity, or one organized person can be your Camp Director and the other families can chip in snacks and drinks.  The possibilities are endless.
0000533_300If you have free spirited kids, we can help inspire the artistically minded.  The Art Treasury is unique in the way it “combines dazzling art from around the world with exciting projects to do that will inspire every young artist. It includes 0001343_famous_artists_book_of_il_300famous European paintings, delicate Japanese prints and traditional African masks, and each work of art is followed by a project influenced by the artist’s methods or ideas.” (from the catalog)  Pair it with The Usborne Book of Famous Artists to delve deeper into the lives of thirty-five of the world’s most talented artists.

Visit the website for yourself or get in touch for more summer ideas.  I’m here to help you find what you’re looking for.

Teach Your Monster to Read…our FREE online game for kids

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Did you know…

the British founder of Usborne Books Publishing, Peter Usborne, and his two adult children have developed a free online game through their charitable fund, the Usborne Foundation?  Created by reading experts and gaming professionals, this game has been available to kids around the world for four years now and your kids can use a PC or laptop and  join the fun too.  A downloadable App is also available for a small fee.

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Get more information at TeachYourMonstertoRead.com .  Read the reviews, join the blog, try the demos or start a free account.  Available for use both in home or at school, this is another tool you can use to make reading fun for your kids.  Get started today!

 

Interesting and sneaky parenting tips from a recent Time Magazine article

6 Sneaky but Scientific Ways to Help Kids Learn

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Jan. 22, 2015

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Parents want to teach kids the skills they’ll need to lead happy, productive lives. But we have too much to do and not enough time to do it. Ellen Galinsky, author of Mind in the Making: The Seven Essential Life Skills Every Child Needsacknowledges this “time famine” at the outset of her book, which is filled with evidence-based ways to help kids learn the skills they need. Here are a few of her suggestions. Chances are you’re already doing some of them. Now you can rest assured that research supports your methods, and maybe you can try a couple of new things. As Galinsky says, “we teach best when we are learning.”

  1. Play games backwards. For example, “Simon Says, Do the Opposite.” It’s the classic with a twist. If Simon says, “Be quiet,” the kids should be loud.

Why:
This helps kids practice inhibitory control, an important executive function. Executive functions also include focus, cognitive flexibility, and working memory. These skills predict academic success at least as well as IQ scores.

  1. Talk about feelings. Encourage your kids to talk about how they feel (She’s sad and frustrated that she left her new necklace at Grandma’s and won’t be able to get it back until next week. She’s also envious of her brother, who remembered his necklace.) Speculate about how others might feel, whether it’s in real life situations (Another driver cut you off, and that made you angry, but maybe that driver was having a terrible horrible no good very bad day) or in a book (Alexander was disappointed when the shoe store had exciting striped sneakers for his brothers but only white ones for him.)

Why:
This helps kids learn the skill of empathy. Kids who are able to understand what others are feeling and understand their intentions have smoother transitions to school, college and beyond because they can see others’ point of view.

  1. Tell Stories. Read. Talk about what you’re reading. Read to your kids, or ask them questions about their books. Tell stories. If you go to a friend’s house, encourage the kids to tell the story of the visit later. Family life is filled with what Betty Hart and Todd R. Risley call “business talk.” This kind of talk usually uses simple vocabulary and conveys what an adult wants from a kid. Storytelling and discussion of books uses richer language and is called “extra talk.”

Why:
It promotes good communication skills. In a survey Galinsky conducted, employers were most concerned about employees’ verbal and written communication skills. Extra talk correlates positively with academic performance. Of course, it might also be pleasant.

  1. Choose toys that have no point. Lego bricks, not sets. Or break up sets after the thrill wears off and see what your kid can make. Guide instead of taking over. (“It doesn’t seem to fit here? Where else could it go?”) Don’t wrest the brick from her hand even if you know you could make something cool.

Why:
This kind of play promotes object, space, and number sense, skills that help kids make connections. Information is easy to come by in the age of Google, but it’s of limited use if you can’t make creative connections.

  1. Write Out the Fights.You probably don’t feel like pulling out a notebook when the kids are fighting, but try Galinsky’s approach, supported by research and tested on her own kids. Collaborate with your family to:
  • Identify the dilemma.
  • Determine the goal
  • Generate a list of solutions. Go beyond your typical solutions.
  • Think about how these solutions might work, and not just the ones that were your idea.
  • Pick one and try it.
  • After you’ve tried it, discuss how the solution is working and either tweak or change the plan.

Why:
This process models critical thinking, which Galinsky defines as “[T]he ongoing search for valid and reliable knowledge to guide beliefs, decisions, and actions.” Life is packed with decisions to make and problems to solve, but in the short term, good critical thinking skills might help your kid judge when a friend is influencing him to make a mean-spirited or dangerous choice.

  1. Praise effort — not talent or intelligence. Instead of saying, “You got that problem right. You’re so smart,” say “You worked hard on those problems and you figured them out. That’s great.” Talk through how they deal with challenges and praise persistence.

Why:
Kids who receive this kind of praise are more likely to take on challenges. They have a “growth mindset,” which means that they see their abilities as something they can develop. This sets the stage for a lifelong interest in learning.

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